Was having a chat with my friend Anne – a working mom yesterday and came accross Stephanie’s post that actually made me feel a little guilty that I now have it so easy with one kid and a home office.
I feel you, Stephanie – I can imagine the chaos of getting home at 6, trying to get the kids dinner and to bed without losing your sanity. Very funny!
Sometimes, I have a day. You know. One of THOSE days. Where the hours fly past at a whirlwind pace and by the time the dust settles, I can’t even believe everything that’s happened and that DAMN, this parenting schtick is hard.
We’re all friends here, right? Well, since we are, I’m going to share an email I sent to my girlfriends about a day I recently had. You know. A DAY.
(I’ve starred out the million curse words so as not to taint your image of me. Or something.)
To: My Girlfriends
Subject: This is what full-time work looks like
Up at 6 a.m. after being up for two hours overnight NOT because of the baby (for once), but because of a pounding headache and sore throat that has carried through till morning.
Shower and throw on clean clothes and flip-flops (pack work shoes). Hair in a bun. But, earrings, so hey, FANCY.
Wake, wash, dress, feed and pack the kids into the Jeep and send them off with husband.
Pour coffee. Put on makeup and jump in the car at 7:30 a.m. Forget coffee.
Get to work. Work all day.
12:45 p.m. leave work for “lunch,” which just means go to Joann’s to get favors for toddler’s birthday party.
Eat a Snickers bar in the car on the way back to the office.
Leave at 4:45 p.m. Go grocery shopping at two different stores to stay within ridiculous budget.
Speed to daycare to get there by 5:50 p.m. (they close at 6 p.m.). Fetch baby who will NOT let you pack up her stuff without holding her. Go into toddler’s room to find said toddler who is engrossed in a farm game and does NOT WISH TO LEAVE. Pack her stuff, try to hustle her out, she flops on the floor in hysterics. Baby starts wailing. It’s 6 p.m. We are the last people there. Bribe toddler with treats (you know, to reward her STELLAR behavior) to get her to the car.
Throw graham crackers at children as you drive home while begging a recruiter on speakerphone to set you up with job interviews for the following week. WINNING all kinds of safety and parenting awards.
Get home at 6:15 p.m. Change baby’s diaper. Throw her in highchair with milk while toddler cries because she wants to PLAY OUTSIIIIIIDE. Force husband to start grill because OMG FEED THESE CHILDREN NOW.
Put groceries away while chucking cheese and deli turkey at STARVING BABY. Swear at crying cat.
When husband asks if the salad is ready to go with our hot dogs, try to resist sarcastic response (and fail, sigh), grit teeth and tell him to put them on the grill and YOU’LL MAKE IT NOW.
Feed toddler strawberries and a hot dog and then also feed baby strawberries because OMG MUST HAVE EVERYTHING RIGHT NOW I’M STARVING DON’T LET ME STARVE DON’T YOU EVEN LOVE ME?!
Make salad while children eat. Realize missing key ingredient. F*** it. Open a beer.
Wash up baby and give her to husband to deal with while sitting with toddler who is now creating a play with pieces of hot dog and straw from juice box. Inhale hot dog and sh***y salad.
Take toddler outside to spin around the driveway on new trike from auntie for eating all of her dinner. Water flowers.
Bring wailing toddler inside (she wants to play OOUUUUTSIIIIIDEEEE!) and realize it’s 7:30 p.m. Run bath for toddler, and instruct husband to get milk for baby while you change a diaper, give baby medicine and putting pajamas on her.
Encounter sneak poop diaper, yell to husband for backup: HELP! TURN TUB OFF BEFORE IT OVERFLOWS!!!
Husband turns off water and chases toddler around in game of hide and seek, much to the delight of toddler but thwarting your effort to herd toddler into bathroom, get undressed, go potty and GET IN THE MOTHERF****** TUB.
Get milk for baby.
Trade children with husband. He puts baby to bed, you give toddler a bath.
For a half hour, because LA LA LAAAAAA SHE’S IN THE TUB AND I CAN SURF THE WEB ON MY PHONE AND DRINK SOME SIPS OF MY BEEEEER… and then clean the bathroom.
Dry toddler, pull-up, brush teeth, floss, lotion, jammies, downstairs for a show while you: unpack daycare bag, empty dishwasher, fill dishwasher, clean up kitchen, clean up dining room, get coffee ready and sweep the floor.
Remind husband that it’s his turn for bedtime and that it’s 8:35 so…
Give wailing toddler milk as bribe to OMFG LET YOUR FATHER READ YOU A G** DAMNED BOOK, PLEASE.
Pour generous glass of wine.
Make lunches for tomorrow. Pack daycare bags. Set out clothes.
9 p.m.: go downstairs. Clean up playroom. Vacuum because who the f*** knows what’s on that rug.
Feed pain in the ass cat.
9:20 p.m.: WRITE THIS EMAIL TO MY GIRLFRIENDS.
DISCLAIMER: I do try to feed my children healthier food than hot dogs. My little one? She’d eat anything you give her. Broccoli? Yes! Kale? SURE! Grass-fed poultry? DON’T MIND IF I DO! The 3-year-old? Well, let’s just say thank God for The Pigeon Finds a Hot Dog, because now we can add hot dogs to her list of five acceptable foods. Sigh.