Forgiveness, is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude ~ Martin Luther King Jr.
The wisest piece of advice I got throughout the entire wedding planning process was that something would go wrong, I should expect it and then not freak out when it happened. I got married on 30th May 2008 (yes 6 plus years ago!) and my wrong thing definitely happened.
As we sliced our wedding cake – at the cake cutting ceremony the cake looked every part what we had ordered for on the outside until we sliced it and it was a black forest cake NOT a white forest cake… “for a second my mind flashed with a sort of panic and disbelief, and I think I considered for a split second, whether I could get it replaced. Then just as quickly, I decided that was ridiculous. I was still here, in a gorgeous dress, marrying this amazing man, and, frankly, in the grand scheme of things this was not so bad. It was my thing, just like I’d been expecting.
Please understand – the cake cutting ceremony is a highly anticipated part of the wedding reception for it is a sentimental moment that is very festive. It is a nostalgic moment that symbolizes the first time the newlywed couple slice a cake as husband and wife, and it also demonstrates their promise to support and nurture one another. So let’s make sure that the cutting of the wedding cake goes off without any misconceptions for it is heavy with tradition and symbolism. Until you slice your cake and its chocolate and my now-husband doesn’t eat chocolate!
And then we moved on. Big props to my hubby, family and friends the rest of the evening was perfection.
Over the 6 plus years I have held onto resentment, always looked at our cake cutting pictures in anger – to the extent of no referrals to our wedding cake bakery until early last month (December 2014) during my son’s christmas concert he sat playing with this boy (this boy always comes to say hello to my son everyday though older than him and in a different class). I decided to ask my son’s teacher who the parent of the boy was…. I froze there he was ‘The Cake Boss‘ I introduced my hubby and I and told him I needed to let go of the resentment. The look on his face was priceless and just then my aha moment! No matter how much I revisit the past , there’s nothing new to see.
All forgiveness is a gift to yourself!
I can now look at our wedding pictures without getting angry. In a kind of weird way, I am happy I did have my moment. In our marriage we have encountered and we’ll encouter way bigger problems than that.
Do yourself a favor…. FORGIVE.