Am I really so busy?
My resolution for 2013 is to purposefully give more of my time, to be available and 100% present. The greatest gift you can give someone is your time because when you are giving someone your time, You are giving them a portion of your life that you will never get back.
As 2012 came to a close; I asked myself what I would like to do with my time? I just realized over the years my claiming of being ‘busy’ and ‘starved for time’ made me feel important and in a way showed I mattered in my ‘too-rushed-to-breathe-world. I have the same total number of hours per week even as I talk about “24-7” with such abandon. Time passes whether I acknowledge it or not. Claiming to be busy relieves me of the burden of choice.
In an article by Laura Vanderkam that says we are actually not as busy as we think: the last paragraph really hit home Change your language. Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.
My 4 simple steps:
1. I will purposefully make more random visits to chat with my dad; over and above our twice a month brunch dates. If my dad’s battle with cancer for the last 3 years has taught me anything it’s that being alive is not a right or a given.
2. I will purposefully make more time for my gals for a good laugh. My first-time-mom request for time off dancing dates is done my son will be 2 years end of next month.
3. If I am working 50 hours a week, and sleeping eight hours a night (56 per week) that leaves 62 hours for other things. That is plenty of hours for a family life and a personal life — exercising, volunteering, sitting on the porch with the paper, plus watching homeland.
My goals — three hours of exercise as a start and swapping out two hours of TV for reading.
4. I will purposefully make more time to call my mom for random chats.
I think life is too short to be busy!! We take time for granted and what is really important in life. There’s something to be said for spending time with family and yourself. Now, I’m off to read John Grisham – The Racketeer!
Of course, no time. But how can you have time if you don’t take time?” The Merovingian,’The Matrix Reloaded’